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Oct20
Waking up to the Hoax
This video changed my life.
It struck home for me. It showed me a perspective I had, it challenged it and tore it down.
In my culture, to be a viable/normal citizen, you go to school, go to uni, get a 9 to 5 job, get married, have kids, and climb the ladder at work. I never questioned this. Never.
I loved school in terms of the learning side of it. I enjoyed doing homework. I knew I was going to go to uni from the moment I went to primary school. All of school and uni was there so I could get a 9 to 5 job. I’d get married and have kids in there somewhere, then retire after being in the same job for my whole life.
That was what I thought I wanted. That was what I thought was supposed to happen. I never questioned this.
Until I saw the video.
At the time I saw the video, I’d already had three jobs (none of which I wanted to stay in), I’d never been on a date, and clearly there were no kids. At the time I saw the video, I thought I was a failure at life. I thought I wasn’t a viable citizen and people would look down on me for it. I was chasing after the things my culture told me to chase, and I felt like it was all a hoax.
The video showed me it was a hoax, and it gave me permission to not go after something I didn’t know if I even wanted. I’ve realized that I actually probably don’t want kids. If I met the right person and they wanted kids, sure I’m open to the idea. But I’m not even sure I care if I get married or not anymore. Single life is pretty good.
No longer am I chasing after something my culture tells me to chase. No longer am I chasing something I think should want. Instead, I’m learning to sing and dance to the music of life- appreciating each moment rather than rushing to the next thing.
Oct13
Are you affected? I sure hope so
Psychology – A class divided
Elliott divided her class by eye color — those with blue eyes and those with brown. On the first day, the blue-eyed children were told they were smarter, nicer, neater, and better than those with brown eyes.
Throughout the day, Elliott praised them and allowed them privileges such as a taking a longer recess and being first in the lunch line. In contrast, the brown-eyed children had to wear collars around their necks and their behavior and performance were criticized and ridiculed by Elliott.
On the second day, the roles were reversed and the blue-eyed children were made to feel inferior while the brown eyes were designated the dominant group. What happened over the course of the unique two-day exercise astonished both students and teacher.
On both days, children who were designated as inferior took on the look and behavior of genuinely inferior students, performing poorly on tests and other work.
Like many readers already know: I am an incurable softy. I get touched by everything beautiful, especially people`s courage, personalities and thoughts. I must confess that this documentary awoke a mix of different feelings: Sadness for the wrongs we`ve done, but also hope for the future and love towards humanity. It also excited some thoughts: What if we could teach children by asking the right questions without feeding them our own pre-made solutions? Do we learn teachers how to teach, what to focus on and how to take care of our future at all? Because, our children are the future, and I really hope they will do better than we did.
I`d rather know this before I have my own children; I want to know that the world can be better, before I let them run around in it. Peril will be everywhere, of course, but as long as there`s hope, I`m willing to take a chance. I want to protect them from landmines around the next corner.
My eyes are still filled with tears, touched by the courageous woman who wanted to show her class what racism is by making them really understand it. My first sceptical «be-carefulness», was convinced by her gentle voice that soothed both the children in the “experiment” and me.
Thank you, brave woman. Thank you for not closing your eyes.
I embed hope in my touched tears, and know they won`t be shed for nothing.
Love, Nina. Clinical psychologist
The documentary
The horrible part was not that one was forced to join in: But that it was impossible not to.
G. Orwell: 1984
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Aug6
Video about “letting go” with excercise
Reblogged from: http://ptsdawayout.com/category/my-favorites/
Alex hosts the show. We have both been working everyday, amazed at where this is taking us. Alex, at 70 has changed drastically. He was a perfectionist, rigid, clinging to thinking and fighting to be able to control life.
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He used to worry, thinking about all the ways to please others, so many obligations, no time left for him. Searching for the self-worth, that a child has hidden away from his constant search, he was lost. Now, he has gained flexibility, a curiosity for the unknown and the focus to let go.
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Practice, so you can let go too.
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Aug4
Medication or not?
A topic that always have raised many questions, is wheter or not to take medication. From my work, I see different client groups, where some use medication, and some not. For me it`s important to let the clients decide for themselves, even if that means trying different options. What is your view on the subject? Here follows a trailer from Finnish therapist
You can get healthy without medication!
Publisert 3. august 2013by janolaf
The movie will be shown under Amaliedagene in Oslo
Quote: “You can get quite healthy out of it – without medication.” – Dr. Birgitta Alakare (Director, Psychiatrist, Therapist)
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Quote: “You can get quite healthy out of it – without medication.” – Dr. Birgitta Alakare (Director, Psychiatrist, Therapist)
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Jul29
Test your attention
Test your ability to keep your attention.
You will watch a brief video clip, and your challenge is to count the total number of times that the basketballs change hands
You can read about the fascinating results here.
Jul27
Two danish bosses surprise their employees
Two Danish bosses surprise their employees in the morning
July 5, 2013 @ 1:45 pm · Filed under Happy At Work, Leadership, Monday Tips
Carsten and Karsten, two sales managers at Danish company Solar, wanted to do something nice for their employees.
Early one Monday morning, they stood at the entrance and greeted every employee with a cheerful “good morning” and a breakfast they could take to their desks.
This a great example of a “random act of workplace kindness”. Have you ever done something surprising and nice for a co-worker? Let us know in a comment.
– See more at: http://positivesharing.com/#sthash.hpBRnzqH.dpuf
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Jul20
Child of our time – The big Personality Test
From the blog 1jessicakes
When we started doing the big 5 personality traits in our groups, i felt a little odd being one of the few yelling them all out. So I promised my group to share a great BBC documentary “Child of Our Time – The Big Personality Test” that I learned so much from years ago! Whilst lying ill in bed, hoping that the cysts on my ribcage do not mutate and absorb my body, i decided to track down the videos in the meantime (honestly, this is the reason as to why i wasn’t in today! doctors orders to not aggrivate it and move as little as possible until they go down – score!) There are two episodes, and – in my opinion, they’re really interesting! (Dr. Robert Winston was my psychology inspiration whilst growing up! What a sad fact!)
So here’s the list:
Jul14
More about psychopaths
There is still much controversy when it comes to personality disorders. We still have the image of a serial killer on our hollywood-influenced mind, but real life is much more nuanced.
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I, Psychopath
Psychopaths… we usually only know them from Hollywood movies. We never expect them to enter our real life. But, the psychopath is closer than you think. Experts believe their number to be as high as one in a hundred. Most of them function in cognito in high-powered professions…all the way to the very top.
But… it takes one to truly know one. In this intriguing documentary, Sam Vaknin, a self-proclaimed psychopath, goes in search of a diagnosis. In a scientific first, he allows himself to undergo testing to find out if he was born without a conscience. He knows he’s narcissistic and cannot empathize with others. By his own admission, he’s pompous, grandiose, repulsive and contradictory, ruthless and devoid of scruples, capricious and unfathomable… but he believes, he’s not a bad person. What he is is indifferent…he couldn’t care less. Unless, of course, the topic is himself.
Vaknin and his long-suffering but ever-loyal wife, Lidija, embark on a diagnostic road trip. But, it’s uncharted territory… deep into the mind and life of a psychopath. The 47-year-old convicted corporate criminal has agreed to take part in the pursuit of his own diagnosis… meeting the world’s experts in psychopathy in the hope that science will provide some answers for why he is like he is. These experts put Vaknin (and his wife) through a battery of rigorous psychological tests and neuro-scientific experiments.
Vaknin is shocked at the results. Sam, his wife, the scientists, the film-makers – will they ever be quite the same again?
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Jul14
Still face experiment: 1 minute of agony
Children are so vulnerable. Especially when born into a new world, when thousands of impressions have to be taken in and analyzed. Some things are more important than others, for example figuring out who you shall seek when you need help. Without help you will die, and therefore social processes like recognizing faces, smiling and connecting are very important.
The fact is that caregivers who habitually respond to the needs of the baby before the baby gets distressed, preventing crying, are more likely to have children who are independent than the opposite (e.g., Stein & Newcomb, 1994). Soothing care is best from the outset. Once patterns get established, it’s much harder to change them.
This video shows a baby interacting with his mother, and how strongly the child reacts if the mother doesn`t respond emotionally in her behavior. Not noticing a baby has such an effect, that it can easily be seen after just one minute. It`s tough to look at, but shows how important interaction is!
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