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Understanding Wellness


The Growing Popularity of Wellness
Today alone, when I entered a search for “wellness” in Google, it got quite a few hits. 293,000,000 of them to be exact! So I started to think about how so many of the people I know all have their own ideas about what wellness actually is.

What Is Wellness?
According to the McKinley Health Center at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, wellness is a life mission; something ongoing throughout our lives. It is about being in a state of existence that is directed toward becoming the best we can possibly be. Wellness is about enriching all components of who we are; our physical self, our intellectual self, our emotional self, our social self, our spiritual self and our environmental self.

Wellness Wheel

Wellness Wheel

In order to achieve wellness, we reach for maximum achievement in each of the six areas of our lives, each and every day. It is important that we understand each area separately so we can integrate them into a complete whole.


1. Emotional – The ability to express and display emotions comfortably and effectively in a healthy way. Emotional wellness involves healthy self-esteem, self-confidence and self-efficacy, as well as demonstrating healthy responses and reactions to issues of trust, love and other deep emotions.

2. Intellectual – The ability to learn and grow from experience and intellectual capabilities. Strong, solid decision making abilities are crucial to intellectual wellness.

3. Social – When we are able to develop and maintain satisfying inter-personal relationships and show the ability to appreciate and respect individual differences, we are demonstrating social wellness. It is also important to be able to adapt to various social situations regularly.

4. Environmental – Being able to show an appreciation for our external environment and having a desire to preserve and improve its conditions reflects environmental wellness.

5. Physical – Characteristics like body size, shape, body functions, sensory acuity, and being susceptible to and the ability to recuperate from diseases and disorders are all considered part of the physical component of wellness. It also involves taking personal responsibility for our own health care and striving for positive lifestyle behaviors such as good nutrition and regular exercise.

6. Spiritual – This area involves searching for purpose and meaning in human existence. It includes developing and exploring a personal belief system with established values and beliefs. It is also about creating and maintaining a sense of inner peace

And, in the middle of these branches of our lives is the self, centered and balanced. As each area of our lives expands and becomes more enriched, we ourselves reach more of who we were meant to be. We achieve more of our full potential. No area is left out of the equation. All make up the cumulative person we are meant to be, and each component is equally as important as any of the others.

Like the earth – always in motion, spinning and rotating on its axis, we too need to be in constant motion, improving and enriching all the different areas of our lives; and working toward a unified, actualized self – a being of wellness.


I’m a licensed clinical social worker and have worked extensively as a counselor with children, adolescents, couples and families. I combine professional experience in the mental health field along with my love of writing to provide insight into real-life experiences and relationships. I hope my down-to-earth approach to living a happier, more meaningful life is easy to understand and just as easy to start implementing right away for positive results!

Getting It Done: Even when you don’t feel like it


If you’re like me, you experience days when knowing that you have to get things done doesn’t matter at all…you just don’t feel like it! Even with a “to-do list” a mile long and despite the second cup of coffee, there are those times when I can’t crank my engine.

Andmot if you’re more like me, you probably don’t have too many clients who are okay about you running a bit low on motivation, however. They don’t really care if I feel like finishing their projects or not. They just want them done in the agreed upon time frame and that is that!

I don’t want to just sit here and stare at my computer screen, but for some reason, it seems as if that’s about all I’m getting done. It’s not that I don’t have any motivation I tell myself, but if I’m going to be honest with myself and with you, that is exactly what it is.

So, what’s a girl to do?

The most I can offer up is a short list of some of the things I have found that help me kick-start myself. They may just help you, too.

1. Whistle a happy tune.

No, I’m not suggesting that you dance around the house at 6:00 a.m., but if you wake up and start complaining about how much you don’t want to have to do the things you have to do, you won’t stand a fighting chance. You’ve got to help give yourself the drive to get things done and negative thoughts and feelings do just the opposite.

By presenting your brain with some positive imagery as soon as you get up, you’re fueling your motivational tank. Imagery is unbelievably powerful. Try it. Before you get out of bed, visualize the way you want your day to go. You can imagine yourself checking item by item off your daily “to-do list.” Make your mental pictures as specific as you can and then start your day just the way you imagine.

Research show that mentally imagining that you succeed at something, actually make it more likely that you accomplish what you want. The reason for this is that our mirror-neurons respond when thinking about doing something, as well as when we watch somebody else or do it ourselves. For example, watching somebody play the piano, will activate motor areas of the brain in the person who plays, and the one just watch. That is maybe why watching people do good deeds, and looking at violent movies, might be bad for us, because watching actually activates the areas of the brain necessary for callousness, altruism or hurting someone. This is especially so if like the person we watch. Mirror-neurons have been called he basis of civilization,

2. Rub elbows with positive people.

There’s an old expression my father used to say about sleeping with dogs and waking up with fleas. (I’m a die-hard dog lover, so please, don’t think I’m being literal here.)But there is a lot to be said about surrounding yourself with the type of people who have what you want. By watching how motivated people stay motivated, you will increase your chances of staying motivated too. We are creatures of habit and attitudes are contagious. So, the more often we see positive behavior around us, the more likely we are to pick it up.

3. Get into motion.

Another way to say this is “DO IT NOW!” In this case, “it” means something….anything. One of the best antidotes to inactivity is action. So, when you get an idea about what you’d like to do, start working on achieving it.

Inspiration can flow once you start working on a project and you may find momentum you didn’t know you possessed just because you set yourself in motion. Sometimes this occurs from the smallest of actions, so don’t worry about how much you do, just get moving.

4. Eliminate your options.

People almost always choose the path of least resistance and look for things that are most comfortable and easy. Getting things accomplished is no exception. When we convince ourselves that we are in a “do or die” position, most of us try harder to “do”.

This is not about perfection or about having things turn out exactly the way we want. It is about persevering. Having a Plan B in place is motialways smart and can only help make sure we stay in motion.

Everybody’s motivation is different. Not only do different people have different things that motivate them and different levels of motivation, but there are differences in our motivations from time to time. It is not a steadfast thing. So what gets us going one time may not work the next.
In order for goals to be accomplished, we have to work toward them, and the ‘fuel’ that makes that happen is our motivation. We need to know what it is that makes our motivation strong enough to see it through to the finish line and we need to know where to recharge and get that extra motivation when we need it.

If these tips help give you that little extra push that you need, I’d love to hear from you. Let me know which work the best and how you found the experience. I’m hoping to hear all about your fully crossed off list of things to do soon.

It can also help to think of yourself accomplishing what you want in the “third perspective (trying to look at the success the way other people would ) would.because this makes us feel life has meaning, and this feeling can in turn affect your motivation.

About the guest blogger:

I’m a licensed clinical social worker and have worked extensively as a counselor with children, adolescents, couples and families. I combine professional experience in the mental health field along with my love of writing to provide insight into real-life experiences and relationships. I hope my down-to-earth approach to living a happier, more meaningful life is easy to understand and just as easy to start implementing right away for positive results!



better at sports by just watching

watching somebody play the piano can make you better

Mirror-neurons: the people we sorround ourselves with have an impact on our life

What is Normal?


Posted by Robert Mudge from RobertMudge.net225546_350664918371928_1197112180_n

The other day I started thinking about What Is Normal? Yeah, I know I’ve been on this earth long enough that I should have already thought about this, ha. I mainly thought of this because I tend to put a lot of pressure and stress on myself in thinking I should be doing this or that by this point in my life. But why do we do that? Why do we think we should fit a certain mold or follow a certain track? In my opinion it’s society and/or what we see in the media. I don’t know of any book or absolute rule in existence that tells us what weight we should be, who we should love, when we should marry, how much money we should make, when to have children…This list could go on and I’m sure you could think of some yourself.

Like the image above says, normal is purely subjective. I had a thought the other day that looked further into this concept:


Alright I created a video to accompany this post and in spite of my fear of making and posting it, here it is: