One of the things I’ve learnt is our weaknesses, brokenness and realness can be used.
I used to think being broken and weak was something to be steered clear of. But I’ve found it’s often in my weakness, brokenness and realness that I connect best with people, inspire people, and help people deal with the very things I struggle or struggled with.
People appreciate empathy and compassion. They appreciate being understood. They appreciate knowing others have gone through the same things they have. I know I appreciate all these things in my struggles and it’s often through weaknesses and brokenness that we develop these things.
Just knowing you’re not alone in something is the most comforting thing.
So I’m encouraged by weakness because it can be used. We are not worthless or useless in our weakness. We don’t have to hide our weaknesses or ourselves. Be seen, share out that weakness with a caring heart that wants to lift others up; it is a beautiful thing.
And it is needed. We all have different weaknesses. Let not one person feel alone in theirs. Let not one person feel useless in theirs.
Sometimes it’s in our openness, our honesty and vulnerability – when we are weak – that we can be a strength to others.
You don’t have to be perfect, and you don’t have to know it all, or have it all together to be loved and accepted. You don’t have to hide your insecurities, your fears, flaws and faults. You don’t have to be strong, in control or confident to be of worth. You are worthy just the way you are. I will not run from you or think less of you if you show me your weaknesses and let me see your dark side. No, as long as you aren’t proud of the darkness and are always wanting the light to take over, I will respect and admire you for being brave enough to be vulnerable and honest. I won’t reject you, because I know the darkness in you is the same darkness in me. We may have different shades of dark but we all have darkness in us.
The darkness isn’t a reason to hide. The darkness doesn’t mean we are dark, but we are aware of a darkness in us. It may come in the form of an anger problem, a greed tendency, a selfish streak, a suicidal past, a criminal record, or any number of other sources of shame and fear. They can make us think no-one can know about them or else people will look down on us. They can make us hide ourselves so we feel we can never be honest or loved. They can make us feel like we have nothing to offer and that we shouldn’t be listened to. But these are lies. We all have something to offer the world; we all have ourselves to offer.
I believe we all have a light and we are all meant to be seen. I believe we all have darkness in us but that isn’t a reason to hide our light. Don’t let your weaknesses stop you from using your strengths. Don’t let your insecurities stop you from being sure of what you do have to offer. Don’t let your darkness grow darker and darker by hiding it for longer and longer. Always hope for and work towards turning your darkness into light. Show both your darkness and your light with humility. Share your light as though it is a gift for someone else. I believe we can all accept each other and what we have to offer even with our darkness. I will accept you with your darkness; I hope you will accept me with mine.