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Creative coculus

Creative coculus

This post is a comment from a Norwegian man, who has suffered from severe depressions through life. He is also intellectually gifted, but describes it in no such terms himself. For him, depression has been the flip coin of his gift, and I think is important to realize that no matter what abilities or Resources we have, mental illness can still have a devastating effect on us all.

The following excerpt, focus on “coculus” thoughts on creativity.

cuculus canorus

Creative people are like me..

This is not said lightly; it is an insight that hurts a great deal. In a way, I see the world not as it is, but as it can or should be. And I have for 30 years thought that everybody did this. Discovering that this is not so; have left me floating on a thin ice-sheet far out in an exsistential, deeply depressed sea with no land in sight.

Anyway. There are massive problems with the words used to describe creative people, and creativity: the connotations, the percieved social and cultural acceptability for “being a little off”.

“Creative” in the worst sense of the word conjures up images of slightly loopy ladies with flowing, purple togas and buckets of paint in primary colours. Or worse still: the image of my primary school “drawing teachers”. I shudder to think: how my creativity survived the lashings of those ignorant dimwits. It boggles the mind. It was a brutal fight, I can tell you that much.

To splash a little colour around is not not creative in itself. The way I see it, and much research agrees, is that creativity is essentialy to take two seemingly unconnected things and combine it in new ways. Very very often nothing happens. But sometimes there is a little magic insight … An article in the Time magazine called The hidden secrets of the creative mind points out that creativity is a numbers game. Creative people fail more. Because they try more (Therefore, creative people can easily feel like failures. Massive egos are not the norm).

I wish to stress that creativity is something equally needed in art, litterature and – and this is extremely important: science. This seems to be left out quite often, unfortunately. In science and arts you will find many of the same abilities. Or, if you like, similar eccentrics. I think Einstein said something like “If at first, the idea is not absurd, then there is no hope for it”.

At the risk of overstepping my role as commentator, I will here bring a buch of quotes by various artists, architects, scientists and other nosey, curious creators.

creativity: 1+1=3

Creativity is:

Any mental occurence simultaneously associated with two habitually incompatible contexts.

Arthur Koestler

That moment of insight becomes the creative act as a joining of two previously incompatible ideas.

Lyall Watson
The association of two, or more, apparently alien elements on a plane alien to both is the most potent ignition of poetry.

Comte de Lautrémont

Perceiving analogies and other relations between aparently incongruous ideas or forming unexpected, striking or ludicrous combinations of them.

Rem Koolhaas

Invention or discovery takes place by combining ideas.

Jacques Hadamard

The unlike is joined together, and from differences results the most beautiful harmony.


The how of creativity is in most respects a complete mystery, but someone worded it thus:
how such connections spring to mind are guesswork but they seem to favour those who have a promiscuous curiosity and chronic attraction to problems.

Yeah. Promiscuous curiosity and chronic attraction to problems. That is me.





Woolf gave us limitlessness, impossible to grasp, urgent to embrace, as fluid as water, as endless as desire, a compass by which to get lost.

“The future is dark, which is the best thing the future can be, I think,” Virginia Woolf wrote in her journal on January 18, 1915, when she was almost thirty-three years old and the First World War was beginning to turn into catastrophic slaughter on an unprecedented scale that would continue for years. Belgium was occupied, the continent was at war, many of the European nations were also invading other places around the world, the Panama Canal had just opened, the U.S. economy was in terrible shape, twenty-nine thousand people had just died in an Italian earthquake, Zeppelins were about to attack Great Yarmouth, launching the age of aerial bombing against civilians, and the Germans were just weeks away from using poison gas for the first time on the Western Front. Woolf, however, might have been writing about her own future rather than the world’s…

…Despair is a form of certainty, certainty that the future will be a lot like the present or will decline from it; despair is a confident memory of the future, in Gonzalez’s resonant phrase. Optimism is similarly confident about what will happen. Both are grounds for not acting. Hope can be the knowledge that we don’t have that memory and that reality doesn’t necessarily match our plans; hope like creative ability can come from what the Romantic poet John Keats called Negative Capability.

On a midwinter’s night in 1817, a little over a century before Woolf’s journal entry on darkness, the poet John Keats walked home talking with some friends and as he wrote in a celebrated letter describing that walk, “several things dove-tailed in my mind, and at once it struck me what quality went to form a Man of Achievement, especially in Literature.… I mean Negative Capability, that is, when a man is capable of being in uncertainties, mysteries, doubts, without any irritable reaching after fact and reason.”

To read this entire essay, see link: http://www.newyorker.com/online/blogs/books/2014/04/virginia-woolf-darkness-embracing-the-inexplicable.html?utm_source=tny&utm_campaign=generalsocial&utm_medium=tumblr&mbid=social_tumblr

Let Creativity Flow



It has been a while and I apologize for the length of time since my last post. And honestly, as much as I am sorry for those who come by and read what I have to say, I also have to acknowledge how much I personally have missed the time I just sit here and write from the heart, not necessarily having a final destination in mind, just letting the words write themselves.

This is a topic I’ve touched upon and for those of you who write or express yourself creatively through any medium such as art or music, you know exactly what I’m talking about. Also, for those of you who have any background in mental health, you also know what I’m talking about. To me, this occurrence actually bridges both and joins them into a total package. What I mean is that when a person writes free-style this way, it is as if they are having a conversation with a part of themselves that needed to be heard, but that may never have said anything had it not been given the opportunity in this way.

It is rather funny, but if people who are involved in other walks of life – other than writers or psychologists and therapists may consider whether or not I require some type of treatment myself. The wording sounds almost out-of-body in nature and there are a lot of people who may view that as ‘way out there,’ and rightfully so. But to those of us who have experienced it, there is nothing unusual about it. It is something I have grown used to calling a ‘free-style frame of mind’ and it is absolutely an altered state of mind from that in which we live and process information most of the time.



It most likely won’t surprise you to learn that once again, research lends a huge helping hand. Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmahalyi, Distinguished Professor of Psychology and Management and Founding Co-Director, at Quality of Life Research Center. has studied this state — which he calls creative flow — and determined a high correlation to outstanding creativity.

I feel validated! There is a lot of technical information involved, but basically, a specific type of brain wave is involved in the type of activity the brain goes through, in order to perform creatively.

So, let those Theta Waves fly, my friends and let the creativity begin!

Judy is a licensed clinical social worker and has worked extensively as a counselor with children, adolescents, couples and families. Judy’s professional experience in the mental health field along with her love of writing, provide insight into real-life experiences and relationships. Her fresh voice and down-to-earth approach to living a happier, more meaningful life are easy to understand and just as easy to start implementing right away for positive results!

What Color Is Your Flower?

Unable to Focus

Unable to Focus

The other day, I read something that spoke about neuro scientific research reporting that the average person spends 13 per cent of their time in a frame of mind that is best described as “zoned out.”

At first I felt upset with this information, considering all the wasted time that this indicated my mind wandered. But as I read on, the tone of the article remained upbeat and optimistic. Why? Because these periods where we zone out and don’t have the cognitive awareness we feel we should possess are actually good for us. Yep, it seems they are vital to our being able to stay imaginative and creative. This is the place where our brains free float through what seems like insignificant streams of consciousness.

The reality is that these places of spontaneous thinking are the birth places of creativity and imagination. They are places where our judgmental selves don’t have a chance of surviving so we are free to just let ourselves go. These zone out times permit us to unleash restrictive, rational thought and just allow whatever comes to come.

I have nothing against rational and logical thinking. Far from it. Thinking logically is totally necessary and a good thing. But giving our brains the ability to zone out and just free-flow is equally necessary and provides us with a healthy compliment to routine, structured and rational thoughts.

Harry Chapin

Harry Chapin

One of my favorite songsters of all time is Harry Chapin. I hope most of you have heard of him and remember him, not only for the songs that were the most popular like “Taxi” or “Cats in the Cradle” although they were good songs with a message or story to tell too. But the song that comes to mind is called “Flowers are Red,” a song with a wonderful message about society’s traditional response to thinking differently and seeing things through a lens that is different than the one most of us see through.

There is a degree of comfort in knowing we are all alike and zeroing in on all the similarities we share with our fellow human beings, but there is also something extremely worthwhile when we celebrate our differences and our being unique. There is so much we can learn from these differences. We can complement each other because of these differences if we learn how to embrace them and value them.

This is still something I am learning how to do better. Sometimes my knee-jerk reaction is to expect other people to think the way I think or feel the way I feel and I get upset if they don’t. I want to feel more connected to them and I mistakenly think if they are more like me then we are more connected.

Embrace Diversity

Embrace Diversity

Relationships take a lot of work because of the differences. We need to learn how to accept and respect people despite them. Even if we are similar to another person in our beliefs, the times when we have our zone out moments may not be the same. We may be experiencing something quite crucial to us when our most trusted and closest confidant is going through a zone out moment and is unable to be there to understand.

We may be zoned out when our co-worker asks us for our utmost attention or when our son or daughter is facing potential danger.

Nobody said relationships were easy, and with some of the newer finding about human behavior, we are able to better understand ourselves and each other; and hopefully help us deal with each other with more understanding and kindness.

And what better time to start than right now as this holiday season begins?

The Real Link Between Creativity and Mental Illness



From the article (link below):

“It seems that the key to creative cognition is opening up the flood gates and letting in as much information as possible. Because you never know: sometimes the most bizarre associations can turn into the most productively creative ideas.”

Excellent article on creativity and the link (if there is one) with mental illness…(Keeping our minds open to all the different ways of understanding these traits or characteristics…)


Complex States At Being


Emotions can be incredibly complex states of being/mind.

I just want to be happyPeople (particularly in this western culture) are afraid to experience emotion due to heavy amounts of socialization and conditioning, especially in school. You know, we’re taught to sit still, to be quiet, to “use our inside voices”, to line up, to avoid disorder and be orderly, to obey, to submit, to share. To share, but not to cooperate. There is a difference. Sharing does not necessarily imply or guarantee cooperation. In school, sharing is a behavioral technique; used as a means to control the behavior of a room full of pinging (that is, naturally rambunctious and curious-minded) short beings.

Let me tell you a story: a sad story about a little girl who cried.

cry, baby, cryTo get to City Island one can walk across a 2,800 foot long truss bridge, which was exactly what I was doing when I spotted a brief exchange between a little girl and her father. The little girl’s father, pushing another child in a stroller, told the little girl to look around as well as look at all the fish visible in the River below. The little girl was throwing bread over the side of the bridge to the fish, and seemed very happy.

Later, having crossed the bridge, I was sat under a pavilion and saw the little girl and her family again as they were passing by. The little girl tripped over a rise in the structure of the sidewalk and fell very hard. So hard that I winced when I heard the sound. She immediately bawled, as I’m sure that hurt her terribly. Probably terrified at the pain, you know, she ran to her father for solace. . . and he admonished her. He yelled at her as he brushed the dirt from her clothes, “You gotta watch where you’re walking. You can’t be looking around while you’re walking!” He seemed actually angry with her that she tripped, an accident on her part, no intent to spoil his day whatsoever. She only cried harder asking then for her mommy. At this, her father really became angry and shouted, “That’s it! You’re going back to the car you can’t act right!”

Did you see the contradiction?

Just moments ago, on the bridge he was telling her to LOOK around, then minutes later punished her for doing exactly that. These are the kinds of happenings that disturb me in the world. What did that do to the mind of that little girl? How could she possible understand that kind of contradicting information from such a trusted and authoritative figure as her father? What was the impact upon her consciousness? What did she just unconsciously learn? How did that affect her ego? Her sense of self in the world she knows and how will that affect her sense of self in subsequent years?

Which brings me back to emotions and the horrors some humans have undergone. That suffering. What I think not many humans grok is that suffering can be soft, horror is not always large, it can be very subtle. . . like entropy, changing and developing small vibrations over time that then result in the current personality/identity of that child in the form of an adult.

The Girl Who Cried WolfWhat happened to that little girl is a subtle terror, an event that will accompany who knows how many more and will shape her as a human being. It’s systematic, to get children all to sit still or to behave as one being so it could be easier (or more efficient) for the teacher to educate them. A good idea, sure, but in actuality what happens is that the children become standardized. The spark, the inspiration for creativity and innovation and imagination breaks down because the channels created have no room for them, no means to categorize something as unpredictable as a room full of children all having ideas simultaneously.

This is one way that fear of emotion is installed in the collective consciousness. That fear to really let go and be fully in the space. . .

“. . . and I’m free, free falling.” ~Tom Petty, ‘Free Falling’

*Image credits (used with permission through CC license)–
“I just want to be happy” by bravelittlebird
“cry, baby, cry” by Barbara Pellizzon
“The Girl Who Cried Wolf” by GaelForce Photography

Let Creativity Flow



Indulge me, please! I am in the mood to just free flow here today. This is something that I have done a few times since I first began posting here, and I promise, the only times I do it is when I am totally tapped into my inner calling to do so.

If this has never happened to you, you will most undoubtedly think me quite mad. But if you have experienced this before, and I believe all writers can relate to this experience at one time or another, you will appreciate it for what it is, almost a complete role reversal in which the paper directs the thoughts, not the more usual way in which the words are formed through thought and intent.

I have tried to describe it before, this almost seemingly out of body type of experience in which it feels as if I am watching my fingers flow across the keys with ‘minds’ of their own. There is a sense of “I’m sitting back and observing the page fill itself” and it feels absolutely wonderful!

There are times I can’t tap into this no matter how hard I try. I have to wonder if maybe the reason that I am unable to tap into it successfully might not be BECAUSE I try. I say that only because as soon as I sense myself putting forth an effort, then the flow becomes interrupted and sort of misses a beat.

Does that even make sense? Well, what if you imagine running water, either like from a brook or even a faucet. The water is flowing and if you put your hand in the middle of the flowing water, it interferes with the motion the water moves in. The flow is still there, but it needs to start up again, though.

Creative Flow

Creative Flow

It is sort of the same thing with the burst of creativity and flow that happens with writing. And once again, it feels wonderful and is quite a remarkable thing to experience.



So, here’s to all of us experiencing more flow in our lives, not only with those of us who write, but with all of us, no matter what we do. I am sure it is something within each and every one of us, the trick is to be able to find a way to tap into it and each time it happens to me, I remind myself that maybe my choice of words is not quite accurate. Maybe it isn’t something we need to tap into, but rather more like something we need to allow to come out, and only by quieting our inner critique, the voice inside of us that screams how wrong we are or how we should be doing it differently; are we able to make room for the stream through which it flows.

I welcome your comments on this – lets try and strike up a conversation and share experiences – keeping those creative juices flowing!

Judy is a licensed clinical social worker and has worked extensively as a counselor with children, adolescents, couples and families. Judy’s professional experience in the mental health field along with her love of writing, provide insight into real-life experiences and relationships. Her fresh voice and down-to-earth approach to living a happier, more meaningful life are easy to understand and just as easy to start implementing right away for positive results!

Intentional Acts of Kindness


I believe it’s important to let people know they are loved and valued. Even if you don’t know them, I think we should always let people know they matter. I believe in using what you’ve been given to love others. We can all use our time, energy, creativity, gifts, talents and money to love people. What gifts and resources do you have that you can use to give to others? Maybe you can cook a meal for a single parent, read a book to a child, write someone a poem or a song, mow a neighbour’s lawn, or start a conversation with a stranger.

I created a list of ways that I can show people love and that they matter. These are ways that resonate with my interests and abilities, but there are many more ways to express love. Some people call these “random acts of kindness.” They are random in the sense that no-one has to do anything to receive them; they just have to be. Most of the time we only show love or acknowledgment when someone has done something for us, but everyone deserves to be appreciated. These acts can also be random in the sense that they are done occasionally, at the spur of the moment, almost flippantly.

I’d prefer “intentional acts of kindness” because I believe thought should go into appreciating people and the acts of kindness should be done regularly. Create your own list of ways to intentionally show people they matter and that they are loved, valued and appreciated. Here is my list and the ones I’ve done so far (I’ll hopefully share these experiences later):

  • Pay for another table’s meal at a restaurant or café (done)
  • Write a letter or card (hand-make a card) and send it to someone (done)
  • Take it on yourself to be a photographer at a party or event then send the photos to people who were there – you can even frame the photos or do a scrapbook album (done)
  • Post an encouraging note about someone on the internet, either privately or for all to see (E.g. Facebook, blog) (done)
  • Pay an amount for the person next in line at the supermarket checkout, the service station or cinemas
  • Get people to write encouraging messages to someone on pieces of paper then collate them all and give them to the lucky person (done)
  • Buy a voucher or tickets and post them to someone
  • Take someone out for a coffee, meal or movie and pay for them (done)
  • Take note of things people say they would like then buy it for them (done)
  • Let someone know how they’ve made an impression in your life – could be a teacher, a person you met once, a family member or friend (done)
  • Buy a box of chocolates, flowers or another gift to say thank-you to someone for the work they do (E.g. A crossing lady, a retail assistant, a receptionist, the postie)
  • Make someone a hamper
  • Put some money in an envelope and send it to someone or drop it in a stranger’s letterbox
  • Make gifts from photos (E.g. Calendar, book, mug, T-shirt, magnets, coasters) (done)
  • When someone comments on how much they like something you own, remember it and give it to them later

What would be on your list? Have you done any of these? Share your experiences.

Guest contributor: A new way to understand patients thoughts and feelings


My thanks to the author

When I started this blog, I had a vague idea of what I wanted: To share some of the knowledge collected over a lifetime with the readers, and maybe find others who wanted to share their thoughts, also. I love meeting new people, and wish I had more time to get to know them (luckily there is still plenty of it left).

One of my new acquaintances has written the following post just for us. I have read some of his post, and already know the author as an intelligent and creative man. I am very honored that he wanted to use so much of his creative energy on us. The post is well written, and really interesting to read. He applies his own thoughts on his psychological knowledge, and the result is an exciting new view of things. Since the theory must be researched more to be sure of its validity, this post is introduced as a refreshing way of looking at things.

This is the personal theory and thoughts of the author. The author is responsible for the content, and the owner of this blog has given permission to the following post. The theory is not researched and have not been used in psychological treatments other than the cases the author describes. Th. For more information, see the links at the end of the post.

-Nina, clinical psychologist


Again, thank you Monty Lukies. This was truly appreciated

A way to understand thoughts of patients and others


I was asked to submit a couple of articles to another blog which covered all concepts of Psychology. Given I say in the about section of my site if there is ever a subject that any one wants me to cover in more detail, I will be more than happy to adapt it to a specific subject. I didn’t really have an article that covered the use of my code for psychology specifically, but it is something that I have covered in my research quite extensively.

So i decided to share some of this work on here, it’s a good insight in to an application of the code for psychology as another one of it’s many uses. I think after you see my examples you may have more questions than answers to begin with. This is a new system that I developed, I’m not personally working on this methodology, rather this is just an example of how to apply my code. I wanted to test to see how accurate it was as a way to prove the accuracy of my code.

Originally this was going to be given to a local university here in my country to continue elaborating on in a form of partnership, unfortunately I never had time to form this partnership with everything else I am doing, eventually I hope to find a university or research company that is willing to continue the work where I left of. I’m not suggesting a new methodology to the process that is already used by psychologists, more this is intended to compliment the existing process.

About the code:

The code is something i developed over many years while working in a creative profession. I developed this code to sell a unique product that had more of a scientific approach to something that is usually anything but. While doing this I began to notice patterns in creative expression, and ways to measure what made certain approaches more successful than others. The more I looked in to this, the more I began to understand about how the human mind worked. Towards the end of this I realized that I had stumbled across something quite big that had almost endless applications.

So this code is a way to compare thoughts and the feelings that drive them, a way to compare, and measure them. While thoughts can change from person to person, from one culture or language to the next, the actual feelings behind them, that is the sensory information that is stimulated be our bodily senses doesn’t. Because of this I was able to find a universal way to measure this, and my code is based on this system, and in this article I am going to use the example of psychology. This is part of what is different to a lot of other systems out there, we are really talking about something that can be applied universally, regardless of who the subject is, and what the application is. Some creativity is needed to be able to apply it, but here I have provided the best example I have for psychology.

In this post the most common part of the code I use is colour patterns, a post that explains the science behind this can be found here. However with the combination of words, numbers colours and other scales we can get quite an insight in to the patients emotional state.

In relation to psychology:

It such a common cliche to see in a film depicting the interaction between a psychologist and their patient, but that question which I am sure you have all asked in you professional career at least once, “and how does that make you feel?”.This methodology becomes a good starting point to do exactly that without even having to ask the question. You will probably see that this method works better with younger people, it also helps with people who are anxious about expressing their problems, or people who are withholding vital information that may assist in their recovery. Not only can it be used by the therapist, but it also helps patients to learn a form of self therapy, which they can apply on their own. The idea is to get the subject to focus on the feelings that drive the problems that they are experience.

This simple method helps to do this, it localizes the most intense and controlling of all feelings at the particular time, once dealt with the next most problematic one because the center of attention, moving from one to the other. It is very similar to the input and output testing used on computers (part of my background is in computer science which is why I compare it to this), not to compare the brain to an electronic device, more that the methodology is systematic in nature, which has it’s own benefits. If you read a little more about my work a lot of what I do is find mathematical and systematic ways to create computational models of dynamic, or in this case; organic system.

Getting the subject to use their imagination is the most important component because when using their imagination all of the sensory information that they would experience if it was really happening is the same, so this is how you can create a comparative point and accurately measure it. The other important part about using the subject imagination is that a lot of what we can imagine is controlled or driven by our own experiences, in particular what we are feeling at that given time. With people who are experiencing certain events, if you were to get them to write a short story, no doubt that at least part of it would be a reflection of their own life at that given time.

I think as most writers commonly say that they are most creative in times of despair, is usually because the feelings that drive our imagination are most apparent at this given time. So rather than explain to you every single in and out of the methodology, it’s better to show it to you an application, here is the best example I could find when I was testing it last year.

The subject “B”:

This conversation is between me and someone who volunteered to allow me to test the accuracy of my code. The person involved “B” has had a very prevalent history of mental illness growing up, she is a female of 26 years old. She was undergoing her own treatment at the time, this was an extra component to help with her existing problems, and it was the first time I had met her.

I’m not going to go in to detail about what exactly she was suffering from, her symptom list at the time was quite extensive and required more than just a simple fix. I haven’t included the entire conversation for privacy reasons, B did consent to this part being made public.

The interview:

Me: Close your eyes for approximately 5 seconds, and explain to me, in the best detail when you open them again, everything you see in your imagination.

B: I have absolutely no way of describing my imagination right now. There are worlds in there!

Me: try for me that’s why I say to take a deep breath it helps a lot

B: I see a universe. Like I said, there are worlds!

– To begin with she is anxious, and having trouble narrowing down on her feelings, the universe is actually a pretty common thing for people to envision as it represents everything. Other objects such as the world, scenes of nature such as the sky, and people the subject loves are the most common starting points. In order to get this to work I need to get her to focus on something smaller, usually the first step will be quite general, people aren’t always that willing to explain what they are imagining, and it becomes a forced representation of their internal thoughts. For the code to work, you need to get the raw “subconscious” driven content, so it’s important to build trust and help them relax as the process evolves.

Me: Laughs, see you can find words to describe it, what about the universe are you so drawn to at the moment?

B: The blackness.

Me: can you see any light?

B: Of course. But I like the empty blackness best. It’s calm.

– This is interesting because there are a few observations that can be draw already. The attraction to the darkness can be a representation of the mood patterns she is experiencing, black being a dark mood. The other most common representation one can draw from black or darkness is fear, she is obviously anxious about doing this as mentioned in the previous observation, the darkness is giving her a form of comfort making this easier to endure. She is very brave in my opinion, this is just a form of coping.

Me: does it just make you calm?

B: Black is anything and everything you want it to be.

Me: so is white… but it”s different, it’s on the other end of the spectrum. Okay, lets work on narrowing down on what you might be feeling at the moment, choose one of these 3 pictures;


– Each of these pictures could have hundreds of associations, its only done to see which of the images she is more attracted to, to help narrow down on the feelings she is experiencing at the moment. In the example of the road it could represent the path that we travel, a long journey ahead of us, the pyramids could represent age, strength, endurance, and many other feelings. You won’t get the answer straight away, but by creating a path, we can at least eliminate some of the less important feelings.

B: I honestly like them all. I keep going back to the road though. But I wouldn’t call it my ‘favorite’.

Me: Okay, here is another picture, is the road still the one you are most attracted to?


B:The piano is my favorite, but I enjoy looking at the road the most.

– Once you have the answers it is easy to get a bit of an idea of what is happening. You really have to just take your best guess to begin with as to what feelings they are experiencing that is making them choose this. In the case of the road, it is indeed a willingness to move on, she wants to move forward but it seems like a long distance with no visible ending. The broken piano can represent an art form that is lost of broken, it can also represent life and her ability to function like other people. When doing this exercise I would recommend more pictures, all of which are of similar quality (tumblr and flickr are great sources for this) to give the subject a lot to choose from, you can experiment with this part a little, and find a system that works best for you.

Me: so there is something that makes you attracted to the road more, but your personal taste makes you like the piano, is that correct?

B: Yes.

Me: okay, interesting, do you like the pyramid picture, does it make you feel in the same way like the picture of the road?

B: Yes.

– It’s important to be able to distinguish between personal tastes and a sort of attraction that is driven by other means. Similar to the song that gets stuck in our head that we probably don’t like, that attraction can have beneficial purposes. Getting the subject to be able to differentiate between the two early on is an important part of the method. This can be accomplished by asking what it is they don’t like about the other pictures, over time you will be able to differentiate between the two better.

Me: Ok, tell me, at the moment, what is the song that you listen to the most, do you have one? that is a song you could play on repeat a lot


The Smiths – I Know It’s Over

Lyrics: http://www.lyricsdepot.com/the-smiths/i-know-its-over.html

From the album “The Queen Is Dead”

– You probably won’t get much information from this if they can even recommend a song at all. Even just asking them for the first song that comes in to their mind, without holding back on the answer can be helpful. Reading the lyrics is an important part, the lyrics can be representative of their own nature or personality, it can give you some insight in to how they think. If in the case the subject is not a fan of music, a movie or television show they watched recently can be helpful. The idea is to try and get them to imagine something that exists outside of their mind, so you can create a sort of contrast or comparative point. If you can’t you can still work from that, but it really helps if you do have  point to begin with.

Me: the next question would be, now that we are talking, if you would have a song in the background which would it be? what is the first song that pops in to your mind? regardless of how lame or inappropriate it may be, try not to adjust your answers to sound cool.

B: I don’t do ‘the cool’ thing! laughs…  took me a while to think of it.

The Smashing Pumpkins Oceania: Violet Rays

Lyrics: http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/smashingpumpkins/violetrays.html

Me: I know this isn’t your kind of music, but can you listen to this whole song and really focus on what it makes you feel?

Zero 7, Throw it all away

Lyrics: http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/zero7/throwitallaway.html

B: OK, done.

– Up until now there has been very little information of real use, and I am still a little unsure of what is going on in her mind. The idea of asking so many of these questions  is to try to lower the defenses. In other words reducing the effect that her “Reason” has on the decisions she makes, and trying to get her to just say the first thing that comes to her mind. The reason I asked her to listen to a song, that was specifically chosen for this purpose was to create a form of dialogue, and to see how her mind registered an alternate sensation, one that I wanted her to feel. In this song the course is “throw it all away, never needed it anyway”. I am trying to see how she reacts to being told to let go, even if she isn’t actually being told to physically do that. But we are finally at that point once you see that there is less of a decision-making process in the answers the subject is giving you, this is the moment when you can actually get the mind to start telling you what the problem is if you know what to look for.

Me: Now I need you to choose 1 of these 3 colours, again not from personal preference, the one that stays in your mind:


B: This is hard, purple.

Me: I had a feeling you would say purple, because of the last song you said was called “Violet Rays”. I think I have found your current main problem or preoccupation…

Me: The last question will be after listening to that song, recommend me another song that springs to mind, not because i will like it, just because its springs to your mind

B: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gEgXDhiayz4

Within Temptation – What Have You Done (feat. Keith Caputo).

Me: (taken from the song) ”What have you done? What have you done? What have you done? What have you done?” Is that what you would live to say to me? okay, so now let me explain what this means.

Me: our mind can be grouped in to feelings and thoughts, the two aren’t totally compatible, but say something like a car and a bike generate similar sensory information, they both move, they both carry us, we can feel vibrations created by the ground, this is an example of how I group things. So when you wanted to listen to that song, its in part because you like it, but its also because part of you is feeling that same way, it’s very hard to think of something that we aren’t currently experiencing. Most of the lyrics can be adapted to what you are feeling, they are representations of your internal dialogue also, while you are slightly consciously making these decisions, it’s still easy to see what it is that you are thinking about, by trying to find a context that explains everything you are experiencing.

Me: Once you get good at being able to see this, you will be able to understand why you are experiencing certain emotions, your mind talks to it self, and while it seems totally random, they are actually connected. But you do need to work on it, the better you get at it, the less likely you are to experience the more random thoughts. For instance just seeing a billboard that says something, can actually do this in a false positive sort of way, because in a way its true, you experienced it, the mind isn’t very good at differentiating between the two. I guess the best example of this is a horror film, you know it isn’t true but you can’t help but to be scare, the more instinctual parts of the mind fall for this but we are taking advantage of this fact to see what is going on with you.

Me: I will explain what it is  about the colour purple is important in a sec

B: Yes…it’s just that everything feels so random right now. I used to find meaning in everything. But now it’s all just ‘things’.

– This is probably the most common thing someone would say to you, regardless of if they are experiencing problems or not that everything seems random. That is because this code I created didn’t exists before, why metaphors did, and they are very common associations that we can all make, I have taken a lot more in depth view of the sensory information generated by just about everything, numbers, colours, objects, by then analyzing them using various methods including statistical probability I was able to figure out what they all relate to. It’s my way of mapping out the complex webbing that our brain is made of, which is why I also consulted with a couple of neuroscientists while doing this.

– I have a belief that the further our feelings get from the thoughts we compare them to, the higher level of separation we experience. The easiest example of this is “letting our hearts guide us”, this is exactly what this is about. Our heart is part of the sensory information that is generated to form feelings. Those chemical reactions are feelings, the more we ignore them or don’t see the meaning in them, the more separated we are. Again using the examples of artists, they usually are guided by their hearts because they only have a small level of separation between the two. This small amount of separation is what makes their artistic abilities so great. In the case of B, she is an artist by trade, and has been unable to create any work for a while.

Me: So think about a fever, In the case of a fever we have one because our body is already fighting an infection, it’s a way of making us consciously aware of this fact that our body is experiencing a form of difficulty and that we need to  react to consciously to keep it under control. I believe that most (if not all problems) of a psychological nature are the same, our body knows what the problem is, where it is located, and it’s trying to fight back to contain the problem, A lot of the repetitive or unwanted thoughts created are the same as the fever we get, as if our mind was trying to make us consciously aware of what was causing the problem. However this part of the mind is quite primitive  and it needs the assistance of the more intelligent parts of our mind to make sense of it. When we are depressed, part of what generates those feelings (chemical factors put aside) are the same as a fever, and correcting the problem can alleviated it a lot quicker, which is what psychologists attempt to do, however we are covering the basics of this to understand why this system works.

B: Yes. That’s brilliant.

Me: it can be very hard to decipher some times, but the colour purple relates to love, I could spend a lot of time explaining it to you but you responded to purple more than the other colours, because its an indication of where your mind spends the most amount of time at the moment.

– The representation of different colours is an example of the actual code, if you are interested in the theory behind colour and it’s relation to the code, you can check outthis post. The reason why I stuck with it was because she mentioned it a couple of times, in the song she selected and the colour that she choose. In the beginning we want to try and get as much information that is raw out there, then once we have this information the next step is to reanalyze it to find coincidences or other attractors (attractors are a part of chaos theory, which is one of the sciences I use  a lot in my work). Essentially we are looking for anything that stands out or is mentioned more than once, from the values we can usually find the cause behind why the subject is so attracted to them. I am really good at doing this mind you, other people may need to do it for longer to get a better picture, with B I was pretty sure, by this point what her main preoccupation or unwanted thought process that was creating her emotional state was.

B: I know (should know) the meaning behind colours. Purple is spiritual love.

Me: correct, however I have found that it has a deeper meaning than that, its love in all senses, but more in particular, statistically for women, it represents… sorry, I am just going to say this bluntly, and while the factors causing it are a lot more elaborate then this, purple usually means, a yearning/need to have children. This is in women, for men some colours have different meanings.

B: Oh god.

M: yeah, don’t take it the wrong way, it’s more complicated than that.

B: …You are right. Completely right.

Me: This part of your mind, it on has a few ways of expressing things so I know this what you must be experiencing is very complicated, and its not as simple as just having children, but is that chain of thought that for some reason you are drawn to.

B: Recently having children is all I can think of. But I know intellectually it is the absolute worst move.

– You could see how something like this could get overlooked in therapy. A therapist if told this, may consider it to just be a passing phase, something biological, or even something that is just happening to her because of the situation, a sort of desperation to find an answer. Also the patients own unwillingness to express these feelings, given in this case she knows it to be intellectually a bad idea, could mean that she wouldn’t be very forthcoming about it in the first place. This is one of the benefits of my system, it highlights what the strongest problem is overall, it doesn’t matter if that week something serious has come up which has distracted the subjects attention, overall, whatever you spend the most amount of time thinking about, or what has the strongest effect on your emotional state, will be the first thing that stands out. Once resolved, after about a week, the next problem will become the most obvious.

M: so relationship, marriage, is something that relates to this that your body feels is the core problem, it could be as simple as the relationship you have with your parents, a possible problem with you reproductive system or anything that could be associated to this, this is looking at it generalizing but I am pretty sure I know what it is in your case.

B: Interesting.

Me: Well what I find interesting, and I do this a lot by reading the news paper, but when people have serious mental breaks (not of the drug educed or biological illness kinds) you can actually see what caused them to break by what they decided to do. It appears the more you “lose” control of yourself consciously, the more apparent what you problem is becomes, and you become more “subconsciously” driven. I then compare this to how the news story evolves, and 9 times out of 10 once the precipitating causes are brought to light by who ever investigates it, it’s usually turns out to be the case.

B:…I can’t work out exactly how you did it, but it just feels freaky to me right now that you were able to work that out. I’m not the type of person to get ‘clucky’. It’s been so bizarre.

Me:  yes, but also relating to the picture, of the road, you want to move on with your life, you want more, in particular love, and a child can also have a symbolic meaning to something you create

B: YES. I want to move on…

– This is why it is important to gather so much information. You need to be able to relate to one problem back to just about everything they have said. It’s the context that fits the problem with the highest amount of accuracy that is the correct one. Purple can also mean pain in love, which would be the next one I feel could be related to all of the examples she has given me. However statistically this is only comment for men, and not so much for women.

Me: either a job or business you really want to do, or creating more art work, something that is YOURS that you create with love (metaphorically this is the same thing as birth) i’m sure you are good at that  so the only advice i can really give you, your mind is talking to you, every day, try and listen to it again like you used to, if a song pops in your head, listen to the lyrics,it may be your mind try to communicate an important message to you

B: …I like it. I used to do that believe it or not. I was the one my friends would go to if they needed help decoding messages. Maybe I’ll get to that place again.

Me: Yes, if you already have this ability you will find it very easy.

– Really this wasn’t anything to special or that hasn’t been done in one way or another before. I did teach her a few methods to help her do this on her own so that she could continue to alleviate her problems for herself. After almost a year has past, she is doing so much better, she can’t even imagine undertaking the medication routine she once used to. While this took a lot of hard work on her behalf, and regular therapy session, the recovery was amazing and something that has really stuck with me.

Final observations and comments:

The ideas are quite simple and as I have already stated it can become a form of self therapy that just about any one can do, to help them find happiness in life, and lead them back on a never ending path of self discovery. Our intuitions can be so intelligent and see more than we can consciously acknowledge at times, this gives us a way to deal with the sensory overload that we are becoming exposed to more and more in our current society.

You will actually be surprised by some of the observations you can make for yourself, sometimes the hardest thing to do is look at what we do wrong, and what is preventing us from moving forward. This system can help there also, and it can alleviate these feelings really quickly. While people who are experiencing a lot of problems may require a bit of work to get rid of the feelings that have backed up, once the path has been cleared it becomes less and less necessary to consciously do this, and more automated.

This process can not only be used in therapy, but it has a lot of other applications, one that springs to mind quickly for me is the application in forensic science and police investigations. The same principles can be applied, and a lot can be found out about the person by using this methodology with the added extra of the code. Hopefully I will be working alongside some other psychologist soon to further grow the amount of evidence for this system, while this isn’t the only testing I have done, I would really like in the future for other people to test it extensively.

With the book I am working on at the moment, it will contain all of the basics of the code, and associations that people have, which is the only component you would need in order to be able to test this. A lot of examples of the code can be found on my WordPress, with more examples of how to apply it.

If you are interested in a sensationalized version of what I do, the show Hannibal which covers the forensic side of things, and the show Perception which covers the mental illness side of things are two great examples of this that are fun to watch.


The woman who saved 2500 Jewish children died wishing she`d rescued more


The ‘female Schindler’ who saved 2,500 Jewish children but died wishing she’d rescued more

By RICHARD PENDLEBURY Last updated at 1:21 PM on 22nd May 2008

She smuggled out the children in suitcases, ambulances, coffins, sewer pipes, rucksacks and, on one occasion, even a tool box.

Those old enough to ask knew their saviour only by her codename “Jolanta”.

But she kept hidden a meticulous record of all their real names and new identities  –  created to protect the Jewish youngsters from the pursuing Nazis  –  so they might later be re-united with their families.

 Irena Sendler Her finest hour: Irena Sendler rescued thousands of Jewish children

By any measure, Irena Sendler was one of the most remarkable and noble figures to have emerged from the horrors of World War II. But, until recently, her extraordinary compassion and heroism went largely unrecorded.

When the Germans finally caught her, the Roman Catholic social worker had managed to save 2,500 Jewish babies and toddlers from deportation to the concentration camps.

She had spirited them out of the heavily-guarded Jewish ghetto in Warsaw, and hidden their identities in two glass jars buried under an apple tree in her neighbour’s garden.

She was beaten, tortured and sentenced to death by the Gestapo  –  who even announced her execution. But Irena survived, her spirit unbroken, her secrets untold. 

She died last week, in her modest Warsaw apartment, aged 98. What a woman she was. For once, the term “heroine” is no exaggeration, though such plaudits did not sit easily with her.

She said: “I was brought up to believe that a person must be rescued when drowning, regardless of religion and nationality. 

“The term ‘heroine’ irritates me greatly. The opposite is true. I continue to have pangs of conscience that I did so little.”

Irena always ascribed her desire to do good to the influence of her parents, in particular her father, a Polish physician in a small town near Warsaw.

Most of his patients were poor Jews. He died during a typhus epidemic when Irena was seven.

When the Germans invaded Poland in September 1939, Irena was working as a senior administrator in Warsaw’s social welfare department. She was responsible for food and financial aid to the city’s poor.

Jewish children

Jewish children in 1943 are escorted to the Warsaw Ghetto – Sendler wished she could have saved them all. 

As the Nazis began a crackdown on the Jews, she widened the state assistance to include the racially persecuted, who were given fictitious Christian names to hide their true origins. 

The situation worsened dramatically in the autumn of 1940 when the German authorities created the Warsaw Ghetto. Some 440,000 Jews, more than a third of the city’s population, were herded into a 16-block neighbourhood, around which a wall was built.

It was to be both an open prison and by Richard Pendlebury a convenient means of isolating and holding the Jews before they were sent to their deaths at Treblinka extermination camp.

Liam Neeson as Oskar SchindlerDisease and starvation stalked the streets. Five thousand died there every month. 

In July 1942, the Nazis began Operation Reinhard, which saw 250,000 Jews removed from the ghetto to Treblinka. The Final Solution had begun.

Irena was horrified. She felt she had to help, so she joined Zegota, an underground organisation created by the Polish government-in-exile to help the nation’s Jews.

In late 1942, she was made head of its children’s section. Her extraordinary work was about to begin. In conditions of extreme danger, she would save as many ghetto children from near-certain death as she could.

Hero: Oskar Schindler was made famous

in the film Schinder’s List (Liam Nelson)

Her first problem had been how to reach the ghetto  –  movement both in and out was heavily restricted by the Germans. This obstacle was overcome when she obtained an official pass from the city’s Contagious Diseases Department. 

Under the guise of stopping the ghetto’s epidemics from spreading beyond its walls, she was able to visit daily.

Whenever she was inside, she wore the yellow Star of David  –  mandatory for all Jews  –  to show solidarity with the oppressed and to blend in with the residents.

Of course, she could not act alone: Irena had developed a network of two dozen conspirators. 

Some were tasked to get the children out, others to find homes for them outside the ghetto and a third group to obtain or forge hundreds of false documents for the young escapees.

The way she secretly removed the children from the ghetto was not only ingenious but, in desperate circumstances, often bizarre. A standard trick was to strap a child underneath the stretcher of a patient being placed in an outgoing ambulance.

Others were smuggled through an old courthouse and a church, which stood on the boundary of the ghetto and had doors opening into both sides. Still more were taken through the sewers. Those small enough were sometimes put in suitcases or boxes and wheeled out on porters’ trolleys. Coffins, bodybags and potato sacks all hid boys and girls.

Irena concentrated first on removing orphans. But as the threat of the Final Solution grew, all children in the ghetto were offered sanctuary.

Irena Sendler

Remembered: Irena Sendler’s funeral was packed with mourners

She often said that the hardest part was persuading the parents to let them go, even as they faced almost certain death. “Can you guarantee they will live?” she was asked by more than one agonized mother.

“No, but if they stay here I guarantee that they will die,” was her stock reply. “You shouldn’t trust me. But what else can you do?”

Sometimes, when her powers of persuasion failed, she would go away and return the next day to begin the negotiations again, only to find that the family had been sent to Treblinka overnight.

But thousands were persuaded to make that heart-rending split, and Irena said: “In my dreams I still hear the cries of the children when they left their parents.”

Even though the penalty for harbouring a Jew in Poland was death, Irena claimed: “No one ever refused to take a child from me.”

She kept a careful record of whom she rescued and where they were sent. This coded information was written on tissue paper. Identical lists were hidden in two glass jars, buried under the apple tree opposite a German army barracks.

This was hardly ideal as the jars had to be dug up every time the name of a new escapee was added. But they were never found.

Even so, the Germans became aware of Irena’s activities and, in October 1943, she was arrested by the Gestapo and taken to the notorious Pawiak prison in Warsaw, which the Nazis turned into a concentration camp.

There, her interrogator was a stylish young German who spoke perfect Polish. And when she refused to expose the Zegota underground network, he had her arms and legs broken.

Sentenced to death  –  which by now she told her captors she wished for  –  Irena was taken in a semi- conscious state from the prison to a forest where she expected to be shot by firing squad. Although she was dumped in the forest, the firing squad never materialised. The underground movement had successfully bribed the man tasked with overseeing her execution, and recovered her even as posters were put up around Warsaw proclaiming her death.

Irena spent the rest of the war in hiding. But as soon as it ended, she handed over the tissue lists in the glass jars  –  vital information that could link the lost children to their families  –  to Jewish representatives.

Alas, many of the families had perished in the Holocaust. Other children she had saved chose to stay with their foster parents  –  they could not remember their real parents. Some 500 were taken to Israel to start a new life. The fate of another 500 of the children she saved could not be traced, swallowed by the tides of war which engulfed so many Poles.

And Irena? She married and had two children of her own. But in postwar communist Poland her heroic deeds went unpublished and were even officially frowned upon by the regime, which was not sympathetic towards Jews.

But as the children she rescued grew into adulthood, her achievements began to attract wider attention. In 1983, Irena was decorated in Israel as “Righteous Among the Nations”  –  the highest honour bestowed by the Jewish people on non-Jews. During the ceremony, Teresa Kerner, one of the girls she had saved, now a doctor, recalled how Irena had helped her move several times to safe houses and then given her a home for two years at the end of the war.

Post- communist Poland also finally awarded Irena its highest civilian decoration in 2003. Last year, she was nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize.

Nevertheless, her profile remained tiny compared with that of Oskar Schindler, the German industrialist who saved far fewer Jews than Irena but was immortalised by an award winning book and film.

Her last years were spent in a wheelchair, thanks to the wounds inflicted on her by the Gestapo.

A few months before she died, she said: “After World War II, it seemed that humanity understood something, and nothing like that would happen again.

“Humanity has understood nothing. Religious, tribal, national wars continue. The world continues to be in a sea of blood.”

But she added: “The world can be better if there’s love, tolerance and humility.”

Irena Sendler had all three in abundance.
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