In an interview with Playboy Magazine, actress extraordinaire, Drew Barrymore, now just a stone’s throw away from turning 40, spoke openly about her ‘wild years’ and how she has been up front with her daughter Olive, to follow in her footsteps and do as she has done.
It only makes me respect her more to hear about her crack-down approach to her daughter and how seriously she takes her role as a mother. Unlike other celebrity parents in the news lately who has been seen with their under-age child and his friends holding bottles of hard liquor while posing for the camera, in a New Year’s celebration. Comments following this event centered on how mom believed people need to lighten up and not judge others. She claimed that criticizers are just taking things way too seriously.
As most of you know, I am a foster mom, usually with at least two children in my home, almost always around the ages of pre-teen through adolescence. I really would love the opportunity to have a young lady in the house, but it seems our home got onto the ‘male’ list at the agency we are connected with and they always call us with boys. Even the two dogs, that I adore and are the loves of my life, are male.
So, hearing how firm, courageous and decisive a stand Drew Barrymore is taking by being honest with her daughter about her past, openly discussing it in her interview with Playboy, and perhaps most admirably of all, not being afraid to confront the inevitable arguments surrounding her “do as I say, not as I do,” earns nothing but admiration and respect from me.
There is absolutely NOTHING easy about maintaining structure and consistency in our expectations of our children. It may very well be one of the most difficult aspects of parenting, having to keep ourselves in check, assuring that our actions align with our words. Our children are watching. Whether they are aware of it or not, it is registering. I didn’t know this then, but I know it now. And if we are to stand any chance in keeping society from decomposing and crumbling, we need to raise children with an awareness of wrong and right (no matter if it is as unique and individual as our own fingerprint.)
It isn’t about naming right and wrong and judging it in others, it is about having a sense of where we stand on certain issues and caring enough to take a stand. When my father passed away, my sisters and I had not one moment’s hesitation in our agreement about one word that appears on his headstone – because it is something that exuded from every fiber of his being – and that is “INTEGRITY.”
Bravo Drew Barrymore, for displaying, no matter how unpopular it may be, conviction, character and yes, INTEGRITY!
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Judy is a licensed clinical social worker and has worked extensively as a counselor with children, adolescents, couples and families. Judy’s professional experience in the mental health field along with her love of writing, provide insight into real-life experiences and relationships. Her fresh voice and down-to-earth approach to living a happier, more meaningful life are easy to understand and just as easy to start implementing right away for positive results!