Parental Authority – Dynamics and Interaction

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 “Benevolent authority is put into action as consistent and continuous dialogues with our children where we actively listen to and clarify what we hear, reflect back our understanding of what we hear and respond respectfully in our roles as leaders and teachers.  This way, our respect and love for our children as separate people comes across loud and clear.  Collectively, these interpersonal skills form a diplomatic initiative that opens negotiations to obtain our children’s cooperation through motivational strategies designed to get them on board with our vision for raising them.” 

“My parenting philosophy, borrowed from many sources is based on teaching children to feel entitled to ask for and negotiate their needs, to learn that the satisfaction of their needs may require patience, perseverance and  resourcefulness over time.  When we fail to care adequately for ourselves it can be unbearably painful to listen to our children ask for the sky and then, unrealistic that we praise them for doing so.  We all know how to shame and guilt our children into silence but, this is a victory we and they pay for down the road.  It’s difficult to take children to places we have never been before.  So, make it a priority to learn to care for your needs so that you will find the intestinal fortitude to cope constructively with their resistance to unpopular but, important decisions that you know from experience are in their best interests.”  

See the link: 

http://www.goodtherapists.org/articles/what-i-learned-about-the-uses-and-abuses-of-parental-authority-working-in-the-criminal-justice-system–19#%21

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