The human psyche never ceases to amaze me. When we are young, we learn how to speak, many of us before the age of three. Our vocabularies grow and we become pretty adept at understanding what words mean and how to use them. But when we throw the human mind into it – amazing things start to happen.
Let’s take word meanings for example. And for the sake of this post, let us work with the word “enough.” I am going to venture for a large percentage of my readers; this one word is extremely ‘loaded.’ By loaded, I mean it comes with a lot of baggage with loads of triggers that set many emotions in motion.
When people have any issues in their lives with boundaries, the word “enough” carries significant implications. If someone does anything either too much or too little, such as overeat or get too angry or work too little or bathe less frequently, again, the word “enough” is at the center of the problem.
But perhaps the most damaging of all, is when we link our very selves to the word “enough;” when we start to think along the lines of whether we are “enough.”
Perhaps the trouble begins when people who are more likely to have difficulties with boundaries attempt to determine what qualifies as “enough.” I imagine, people who have a better handle on balance in their lives and have experience living a balanced life are better able to quantify how much is “enough.”
But for people who tend to find themselves out of balance often, this single word can be turned into something quite devastating. “Enough” can’t exist unless there is a way to begin from a balanced posture.
So, let’s try it for just a moment – gently close your eyes and breathe deeply through your nose, clearing out the clutter of emotions and thoughts that are in the way. Try it for just 15 or 20 seconds. Ground yourself and experience a bit of calmness and balance. Now think about “enough,” and you will find, it has no more or no less meaning than any other word – because we have regained our balance and don’t have to react the way we usually do.
I’d love to hear how this worked for you! Let me know.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Judy is a licensed clinical social worker and has worked extensively as a counselor with children, adolescents, couples and families. Judy’s professional experience in the mental health field along with her love of writing, provide insight into real-life experiences and relationships. Her fresh voice and down-to-earth approach to living a happier, more meaningful life are easy to understand and just as easy to start implementing right away for positive results!