I do not truly believe that it is a good thing that our society highly rewards people who are rude or so direct as to ignore the way they make people feel.
If I’ve lost you, this statement is a follow-up to yesterday’s post. Briefly, in it I pointed out how handsomely rewarded some high-profile celebrities are and how they’ve gained their extreme popularity and financial success by stepping over the line of honest and direct into inconsideration and becoming hurtful of people’s feelings.
I truly don’t understand why there are any of us who respect this type of behavior – even if it is sold to us in the name of ‘honesty’ and ‘being direct.’
Does it not speak to how fed up we, as a society, might be of all the ‘political correctness’ we had shoved down our throats in years gone by?
When I was a young girl, my maternal grandfather, one of the people who I was closest to in my life and who, to this day, I regard as one of the wisest people I’ve ever known, told me that it was written somewhere significant (most likely in scriptures somewhere,) that too much of anything is not good.
The point of his story (and there always was a point to the stories he shared with me on those long walks we took,) was that in order to live a healthy life, we need to find balance – and in this case, balance means not too much or too little of anything.
If the familial, scripture-like version of this moral doesn’t sit well with you, then le’ts go for the more creative, Fairy Tale perspective.
When Goldilocks fell across the home of the 3 Bears, deep in the forest one day, she encountered an empty home filled with furnishings and dietary pleasures that the family of bears enjoyed.
In her quest for tranquility, she ate the porridge that was “just right,” avoiding both the one that was too hot and the one that was too cold. She declined rocking in the huge chair that was too big and high. She turned down rocking in the Momma Bear’s chair that was also not to her liking. But she enjoyed the Baby Bear’s chair that she deemed “just right” so much, she rocked and rocked and rocked until she broke the chair.
Even when it came to time for her to rest her weary eyes after a long day’s worth of rummaging through the home belonging to the 3 Bears, she could not sleep in the bed that was too hard. Nor was she able to find herself comfortable enough to rest in the Momma Bear’s bed that was too soft.
Once again, only in the Baby Bear’s bed, the one that felt “just right,” was Goldilocks able to find peace and serenity and enough comfort to fall asleep.
What we deem as “just right” is more than likely as unique and individual as we are as human beings. But, we all share some degree of where right ends and wrong begins. I feel confident that although we can laugh and even celebrate people who act in ways that are not considered kind and compassionate toward others; we know the difference and understand in our hearts that what we really ought to be celebrating can be found more in the kindness and goodness categories.
If we could only find a way to have society truly reward those who do good things for each other, we could make our world a much better place for us all.
I’m a licensed clinical social worker and have worked extensively as a counselor with children, adolescents, couples and families. I combine professional experience in the mental health field along with my love of writing to provide insight into real-life experiences and relationships. I hope my down-to-earth approach to living a happier, more meaningful life is easy to understand and just as easy to start implementing right away for positive results!