I cannot. Cannot tell you about the amazing conversations I had yesterday, just say that I had. Just say that magic never has been more clear or vibrating in others. I have seen it in shocked eyes, unusual movements and habits broken.
An alive connection, an umbilical cord filled with nutritious experiences that bind us all together. Our stories are the blood vessels that keep it connected through every storm. The cord doesn`t stop transferring, only we do. We clip it, pinch it or send something poisonous away, or we don`t shield it from what it needs to keep pulsing. It needs iron for the blood, steadiness to not twist and food to build its walls. When we neglect given ourselves energy, we neglect being alive. Lack of self-preservation have the direst consequences people can think of.
Not getting what you need is like putting the shiny film over your eyes that blinds you even if it`s transparent. Your children are there, tugging your leg, and you pat them on their head, while that shine cuts away any other thoughts or feelings. It`s better that way, it’s better to avoid it all. Just not for the child, seeing the vacant look that so skillfully create small holes. When there is not enough space, for more of them, they devour each other. Black holes inside black holes. That`s when the amazing thing happens, that`s when magic comes. Magic has the power to find plugs that stop energy from leaking out of the holes. It might even reverse the process, since a filled hole will brim over, spread its contents and neatly cement other cracks.
Coincidence or not, the power of new experiences and daring to jump into a different carousel, one that goes slower, is more controllable, and might even give time to watch what`s going on, is like nothing else. Wind is a powerful as the speed in which it proceeds, and it won`t help for me to blow any more life into it. It happens inside the weather system, the trick is not holding back. Inhibitions and fear, the mountains that push your existence away, can be crushed. Again with magic hammers and explosive that was in your pocket all along. Just find them, install the dynamite and let it blow, until you fly with your flapping wings.
If you need inspiration: Start learing. Everything. Expansion is part of the explosion, and the expansion of a mind can really move mountains.
Casual versus critical reading
Researchers from the Stanford Center for Cognitive and Neurobiological Imaging took brain scans of several literary PhD students as they read a chapter from Mansfield Park. First, the PhD students were asked to read the book casually, for fun. Then students were asked to switch to a critical reading mode similar to how they might analyze it in a literature classroom This switch in reading modes created a significant shift in brain activity patterns on fMRI scans. Casual reading activated pleasure centers while critical reading increased activity in the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for the executive functions heavily involved in attending to tasks like reading.
Executive function and the brain
Executive function is responsible for more than just attentive reading: this brain function helps moderate how you divide your attention, use your working memory, and generally direct your brainpower. It plays a powerful role in decision-making. While the findings of the Stanford study are preliminary, they make a good case for further research on the impact of reading on cognition. Philips posits that critical reading could serve as a type of training, “teaching us to modulate our concentration.”There is other evidence that reading can be good for your brain. A 2007 study from the Center for Occupational and Environmental Neurology found that avid readers benefited from increased cognitive reserve. Cognitive reserve is the concept that challenging intellectual activity — like reading or brain training — can protect the brain against negative cognitive impacts later in life.
- Brain stimulation at any age can slow memory decline (usatoday.com)
- What is Executive Function? (engageadhd.org)
- Active Brains Slow Cognitive Decline (medindia.net)
I’m a 50-year-old Scottish male Living in London. Suffering mental health problems, including, Depression/ Bipolar (unconfirmed), PTSD, (associated) Agoraphobia, and (newly diagnosed) Borderline Personality Disorder.
So many nice pictures, I totally fell in love with her blog and pinterest site
Simply a wonderful girl with different parts inside
Exploring ways to win the wars waged within the mind, writing about it, and playing some cards on the side (something has to pay the bills!)
Some extra reading if you want to expand your universe already:
Nobel laureate John Steinbeck (1902-1968) might be best-known as the author of East of Eden, The Grapes of Wrath, and Of Mice and Men, but he was also a prolific letter-writer. Steinbeck: A Life in Letters constructs an alternative biography of the iconic author through some 850 of his most thoughtful, witty, honest, opinionated, vulnerable, and revealing letters to family, friends, his editor, and a circle of equally well-known and influential public figures.
Among his correspondence is this beautiful response to his eldest son Thom’s 1958 letter, in which the teenage boy confesses to have fallen desperately in love with a girl named Susan while at boarding school. Steinbeck’s words of wisdom — tender, optimistic, timeless, infinitely sagacious — should be etched onto the heart and mind of every living, breathing human being.
November 10, 1958
We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers.
First — if you are in love — that’s a good thing — that’s about the best thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t let anyone make it small or light to you.
Second — There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you — of kindness and consideration and respect — not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.
You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply — of course it isn’t puppy love.
But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. You know better than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it — and that I can tell you.
Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it.
The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up to it.
If you love someone — there is no possible harm in saying so — only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration.
Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they usually like to hear it also.
It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another — but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good.
Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I’m glad you have it.
We will be glad to meet Susan. She will be very welcome. But Elaine will make all such arrangements because that is her province and she will be very glad to. She knows about love too and maybe she can give you more help than I can.
And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens — The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.
we are the most intelligent species on earth, so maybe we should act like it.
To introduce the idea, I will ask everyone to watch this short movie first. Even if it takes 18 minutes of your time, I really promise it is worth it (psychologists honor)
We go about our everyday lives wanting things to always be getting better. We hope that our work makes a difference and those who came before us are proud and we wish for our children to have more than what we were given. As anyone knows who has heard Martin Luther King Jr.’s famous speech—delivered fifty years ago this August~ dreams are at the center of any effort to make things better. And today we have something with more power than we might realize: The internet. It’s not without reason that China and North-Korea tried to keep their inhabitants away from news. The media also have immense power, and even if some might argue that they focus on the wrong things (making thin the new fashion, ignoring many crises out there) there still is so many good journalists out there, who really want to make the world a better place. Combine the knowledge, motivation the internet and the media and you have a wonderful recipe: People who actually do something.
So, this is all well and fine, but how does this help? What can I DO? If you have watched the movie, I give an option. Like we all help the world by sorting our paper and throw it in a separate garbage bin, thereby saving the rainforest, what about spreading validation around to others ? What happens when someone smiles at us? Research shows that our mirror-neurons respond automatically by creating a smile on your own lips. This means that smiling AT someone, actually MAKE them happier. Research also shows that being happy yourself, gives you more energy to be there for others. So, like in the video, I would challenge the readers of this blog to do JUST one nice thing for somebody else (preferably a stranger, because that would have the biggest impact) the next week. When you have done that, write WHAT you did, and if you want, leave your email at the end. This will be like signing a petition for releasing a political prisoners. For every one of you who does that, you might have made the world just a little better. This is what your story means: You are signing a petition for a better world!
- 2013 My 100 Day Challenge (my100daychallenge.com)
- (never stop dreaming!) http://www.lollydaskal.com/leadership/lolly-daskal-i-have-a-dream/
- Validation: You can change things (forfreepsychology.wordpress.com)
- A women who writes brilliantly about how to think for yourself and fight for what others say is “naïve”: http://theoeditrix.com/2013/06/24/im-naive-not-stupid-theres-a-difference/
About me, growing in heart and mind.
Try to learn something new every day, and to remember how good this world can be if you only look for it. Right now I`m working with something I love: Helping people on their way to a better life. I`ve had so many good moments together with people who just had to open their eyes, and see what they hid inside
Further interesting reading:
- Bayou Woman
- Gabriela LeBaron’s Blog
- Life is a Vacation
- Crazy In The Coconut
- In Flow
- both sides of the wall
- My Travels with Depression
- borough of lost boys
- Julia’s Carpe Diem List
- twentysomething Steph
- Hart Helps
- Shaun Robinson
- Vers Les Etoiles
- The Oeditrix
- ACEs Too High
- Posts I Like